I have a little problem with the theory of blaming the disease and absolving the alcoholic of responsibility.
I dont hate the person, I hate the choices, selfishness, and lack of responsibility.
I feel that if the alcoholic took as much time to face their responsibilties as they took to hide from them, the cycle would be easier to break.
If it was the disease all to blame, "recovery" would be a hoax. People would never get well and continue to go in spirals. There would be no examples of how people recover....bc afterall ,they have a disease.
Ok, Im done. Sorry Gabe, didnt mean to hijack.