Originally Posted by
Bidgdrunner 
.....No one else has responsibility for me and my body, so it's up to me to do so.
This part that I quoted from you?... this right here... this is where your wife needs to get to in terms of her recovery. This is something you have zero control over... just like no one else can tell you to get up off your butt, strap your shoes on and hit the pavement.. you have to have the will and the power to do it... same goes for her.
I'm glad you are sticking around Bidg. I know these realizations aren't easy to swallow.