FallenAngelina

You keep calling her brazen, which implies that you think that she should be hiding her alcoholic consumption. There is no upside to hiding the drink and in fact, it's actually a very bad sign for the whole family when an alcoholic falls into hiding their drink. With hidden drinking, you all are hooked into lies. Lies and secrecy are the bedrock of a codependent family. Lies and secrecy erode intimacy, emotional security and love. Do not ever ask an alcoholic to "be discreet," for it will not help the situation. It only signals how deeply hooked we are in codependence with them. Asking them to hide the drink only perpetuates an illusion and our own lies to ourselves.

Are you in a program or a community support network yourself?