I got there by intense introspection and self-discovery. What kick-started the process for me was the twelve steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. It was certainly not the only tool used on my journey and I don't believe the twelve steps are the only way to self discovery, but they are what got me started. I do however, believe that I would not have gotten to this point (feeling like I have given up absolutely nothing by cutting out alcohol and the exclusion of it is nothing but positive) without intense introspection and self-discovery by whatever means possible.
At any rate, that is my story and I am sticking to it.