I really appreciate your insight and I know you’re right.
Tonight, he asked me “can you just stop accusing me of drinking or having alcohol in the house?” I told him I know he’s had it hidden here. It was here a month ago. He admitted to it, but also gave me the “go look. Go search if you want.” Manipulation, lying.
Anyway, yes, I need to remember it’s not up to me to change him. I can’t. But I have to decide what I need to do and what’s right for me.
I just get so turned around and self-conscious. Am I overreacting? Am I being too hard on him? At heart, I feel like I’m not. That there’s not a rational, reasonable reason for this. He’s very good at turning things around on me. But I get the impression that’s not an uncommon thing.