Originally Posted by
Icemelon 
Thanks for putting it into some perspective. I do need to focus on me and regain my strength. Its not healthy for me at all. He says he has stopped but can have the odd blowout if he wants. I guess its really up to him.
It's certainly not up to anyone else that he gets and stays clean and sober.
You know the phrase that goes something like ... "You can't help anyone that can't help themselves"? Well, the same idea applies to love - how can you really expect or even hope that he will love you when he's in the middle of a slow suicide by drug and alcohol abuse?