Hi,
You wrote "Is it me in the wrong somehow?"
I wouldn't say that you're in the wrong, but I would say that you look really confused. You've turned this man and the relationship you had together into your focus. You're obsessing about him. Who knows how he feels? What does it matter? Isn't his behavior what really counts here? That's what I'd look at.
What if you turn that focus around onto yourself? What if you start focusing on rebuilding your life the way you want it without him in it?