Originally Posted by hummingbird358
All he ever wants it seems is to manipulate us into paying for something
Yup, that's exactly what my stepson wanted. For his Dad and I to pay for everything and let him do whatever he wanted in his father's house. We definitely don't have to be disrespected and yelled at in our own homes by our adult, addicted children. No way, no how. You did nothing wrong in offering help in a way that worked for you. He just isn't ready to accept. That's his choice. And that is the hard part you have to accept. And like my stepson, you are now the 'bad guy' because you aren't letting his addiction run amok. And yes, his addiction is calling the shots now. I will make this one caveat: if he threatens to harm himself, do not hesitate to call an ambulance. Even if you have to do so from across the country. If he is serious, he will be in the hands of people who can really help him. If he is being manipulative, it will discourage him from doing so again.
Hang in there!