Originally Posted by
hummingbird358 
We offered him to come home for a few weeks but he would have to go for counseling, IOP, no driving our cars and no women at our house... He refused our rules.
Not sure how long he will last at the friends house.
it looks like you offered him ultimatums. 'You can come home IF ...'
Those only offer addicts the opportunity to say, "NO THANKS".
I understand how hard it must be for you to have to suffer the powerlessness involved in being unable to straighten your son out. But this is his gig. He has to want to get sober. He has to want to live. There's not much you can do except offer your love and support for his sobriety.
What happens when he gets to his ex-girlfriend's home is not your concern. She's probably making a huge mistake by allowing him to stay there, but she'll figure that out in time. Who knows - maybe something wonderful will come of it (even though it might not look wonderful at the time). Your son is an adult. Maybe it's time he learn to behave like one.
Best.