I am in the uk and I have been through hell with mine.
the only way I have been able to get my life together is to get him out the house permanently...for my health, kids health and most importantly to appease social services who do not like drunks in houses with kids and understandably so. My boys are not his so that’s easier but it was still hard to lose what little help and company he was around the house when he was sober.
but he was never sober anyway.
you and your children need help and most importantly you need to protect them. My youngest, 13 suffered with terrible anxiety and has flourished since he’s gone.
You can’t stop her drinking. Trust me. If you try she will just lie and hide it. She might even admit she has a problem...but words are meaningless. Unless she takes serious action and sustained serious action then you really have to consider yours and your children’s lives and exposure to her addiction seriously.