Sapph,
That is terrible. So scary how fast it can go.
I have had something similar happen and can relate. A dear friend died suddenly, not alcohol related. After he was gone, I realised that he had had terrible financial problems that he had totally hidden. I too had been having similar issues at the time and if we had not been so ashamed, we could have supported each other. But shame got in the way.
So I have tried to learn the same lesson about shame. Hiding is engrained in our psychy as drinkers and breaking that pattern is hard, but so freeing.
I have been trying to do it for my friend; in his honor.
XX