to the Weekenders
If this is your first weekend sober, or many, come join us for support and chat...as we know the weekends can be a struggle sometimes. (We’re here all week too!)
Sometimes it’s so hard to motivate ourselves to get up and do it! I know I struggle to start from my list of things ‘to do’.
For sure though, one of our biggest hurdles can be to stop and stay free of alcohol/drugs.
For me, I saw myself through my husband’s eyes and hated the person I’d become.
I knew that wasn’t me really, deep down, but that person had been taken over me by addiction and I was stuck in a deep chasm.
I was in a class for slimming once. The consultant held a candle in her hands, whilst we were all sat in a semi circle facing her. ‘Try to blow out the candle’ she said. After a few huffs and puffs from 10feet away, we all realised we couldn’t.
‘What does it need to blow out the candle?’
‘Well it’s obvious, we need to be nearer’ some piped up.
‘How do you get nearer?’ ‘Show me’ the consultant said.
Some people got up and walked until they could blow out the candle.
Everything we want or need usually takes some effort.
I saw this scenario in my life as:
Getting Sober is knowing you want to blow out the candle.
Staying Sober is making a decision to walk over and blow the candle out.
My grandmother once gave me a tip:
In difficult times, you move forward in small steps.
Do what you have to do, but little by little.
Don't think about the future, or what may happen tomorrow.
Wash the dishes.
Remove the dust.
Write a letter.
Make a soup.
You see?
You are advancing step by step.
Take a step and stop.
Rest a little.
Praise yourself.
Take another step.
Then another.
You won't notice, but your steps will grow more and more.
And the time will come when you can think about the future without crying.
- Elena Mikhalkova