Tink and Bilr, it’s so not ok for mothers to be so mean and disrespectful, even if they do have their own problems.
I feel very grateful to have had a loving relationship with my own mother and I feel so sad that your relationship with your mothers hasn’t been good. At the end of the day, we really do need to look after our own mental health though, and sometimes we need to put a bit of distance between ourselves and others if it’s not healthy to be close, even if it’s only a temporary thing. I really don’t have any answers, but I do think therapy with a counsellor can be really useful to help us work out the best way to deal with difficult situations and relationships.
Sending love ❤️