Tats, I see where you are coming from, but I don’t read that statement as shaming so much as speaking blunt truth about what growing up in an alcoholic home does to family dynamics.
I think we have to acknowledge that our addiction does have negative lasting impacts, particularly on children who don’t have the defenses or life experience to set proper boundaries and that this does affect them well into adulthood.
That doesn’t make us bad people, just people with a problem we are working to overcome. If we don’t acknowledge the elephant in the room, we are doomed to step in pachyderm poo forever.
Happy birthday O!
Middlest will come around eventually. You just keep doing the next right things for your recovery and your actions will speak for you.
