O wrote that her sponsor said: "She told me that our alcoholic selves create a sick family, that the impact we have is further than we can know,"
Heavens forsake! The above appears to be blame and shame from your sponsor, for creating a "sick family". Crikey, O, if I were you, I'd run this past Daniel! It's a common theme around SR AAers, that self-blame, blame-others (resentment) and shame, led to what ultimately became excessive drinking. I really don't see how a sponsor could make that statement if she truly was a "strong empathetic woman".
Hawkeye, Dropsie, if I'm seeing this wrong, please let me know! I just wish O to continue with her hard-earned sobriety. I self-flagellated for far too many years, and can only speak of how I'd react to such a sponsor statement. Sorry to make you a third person, O.