I'm not an AA person either Redfalcon. Sitting in a meeting or even one to one therapy were both just too frustrating for me initially; I'm not much of a talker or expresser of feelings... What really helped me was exercise - I have a lot of physical energy - maybe movement is just a different form of expression.
Early days I learnt that I had to actually book training/sessions/even solo runs or weight sessions into my calendar and prioritise them as the day's must do. I had to be very very selfish and put them before work, social life, even being available for family/friends for a very long time. Even still, if I feel anxiety building up I have to stop, cancel plans, maybe even take a day off work and work it out physically. Only then can I calm down enough to process cravings, what's going on, be able to read etc. Some of us are just built that way I guess!