Dandy: I have co-dep. no more as an audiobook...re-listened to it again the last couple of days. I identify with it a lot. I am also taking the Divorce Rebuilding seminar, based on a book called, rebuilding. It is a pretty in-depth analysis of all the dark aspects of our being.Looks in depth at the victim consciousness and maladaptive behaviours. Easy to do this when things are stable, another thing when I m in a crisis state, which I am now (with my mind racing). The last 2 weeks, I was doing well. I have been really carefully watching myself, my thoughts, my actions....meditating morning and night, working out, staying LOW contact, following through on my requests for visitation. Then I went back to the stove. I thought the stove had cooled off, She was doing better.