Originally Posted by
Nd819 
It seems like a lot of alcoholics have a tremendous amount of shame and self-loathing. I wonder if this makes it difficult to say I'm sorry. If they did that they would need to really own their destructive behavior. I'm not sure if that is the case but makes sense to me. My AH would apologize early on for his binge nights but won't any more, for him I truly believe it's shame. He will tell me though that his drinking really doesn't effect me, just the typical night time drinking himself to sleep kind of thing.
May I speak to this as a long-term recovering addict/alkie? The shame is overwhelming. The more I was ashamed, the more I drank to get rid of that awful feeling, and I would end up doing something else I was ashamed of. When I got sober, considering the things I did to the people who loved me, "I'm sorry" just didn't cut it. I had to demonstrate in my daily life that I was embracing recovery, and changing my life around. Just my two cents. Sending you hugs of support!
