He can drink a lot before it shows, so It's very probable that I wouldn't know if he's drinking and hiding it. As much as I want an explanation for what the heck that was all about, I'm trying to let it go and just take the lessons from it - I don't trust him and I do know from experience that he likes to wind people up, he has tried to scare me ... It's just a mess. Drunk, bully, I don't know, but this is not a healthy place for me.
When we go to visit our families, I have told him that I am going to stay and look for work there so that I can be close to my mom. He is planning to come back to his job here, so if that works out I should have some space and peace to figure out my next steps.