pizza, my intention is not to make you feel guilty. It is just that I know how miserable an environment can feel when there is one overbearing and destructive person in the mix. I have been in such places and it has a negative effect on everyone. It is almost like one can feel it in the air.I would imagine that it is so frustrating to the kids as they are young adults---almost and can probably see the unfairness or injustice of it all. And, they can probably feel that it is wrong foe him to "get by" with such behavior. I suppose that it is normal for them to have the desire to protect you. I do get it that the pandemic has made home life really extraordinarily hard on so many households. It seems like it has put lots of peoples' lives on hold.