Re: O Well?
The need to be in control is a funny one. Firstly it is futile. Everything is continually changing and therefore ungovernable and not-self. Any attempt to cling on to this continual flux leads to misery. In other words, trying to be in control in order to manage life contributes to life being unmanageable. Secondly it sets one up as the message becomes "stop trying to control" and to not control becomes a leap of faith which more often than not fails because there are so many "false prophets" and various degrees of ignorant and inexperienced people and ideas to have faith in so that in the end it reinforces the need to be in 'my' control, only this time better control, and so on... Therefore, develop a faith in the process of equanimously observing the continually changing phenomena that arises on ones own mind-body. Lose control there. Practice not beong in control of the inner, ignore the outer.