I relate. Very much. Processing feelings is not my strong point. And deep old wounds are better left untouched....for me. I know many have the ability to process deep trauma. I lack that ability.
So its finding that balance between chin up, stiff upper lip and allowing feelings in a healthy way. I find that learning to deal with the new day to day stuff makes it easier to start marrying the cognitive with the feeling side of me. I don't know if that makes any sense. But too much feeling? Living in my feelings? No bueno. Because there is no doubt, my feelings are usually not very accurate barometers of reality.
Old pain? I let it out slowly and carefully.