August252015

So, he went to this (quite good, and also money-feasible for at least a yr) place last July. He lied about his sober date and at that point only admitted to pot. He was w/in the window it takes to get out so they let him in. Further tests clean tho we later found out he had also been drinking doing drugs.
A job is a requirement; he is on his 3rd (that we know of), and he tends to be overly positive and dismissive w his dad in the at times VERY limited contact. He and his mom are in a completly dysfunctional relationship yet she is the one that gets more info - it is a tug of war that shouldn't exist to get answers from ayone.

His cycle, at now headed to 22 is to start seeing a dr, get one the right meds,and along with the new job the "things are going great - evenI'm gonna get promoted!" cycle has continued during this time in treatment. H is compliant yet doesn't not seem truly and consistently motivated. This wk (tomorrow) is the third time we will see if he keeps a tele meeting and gets a prescription - the last 2 appointments fell thru bc rather than read the email that said all appts were remote, his tke away was that someone was supposed to reach out to TELL him.

For him, drs and med compliance are required for him to stay. I'm a bit of the bad guy in the parental triad as I know too well waht saying F*ck it to meds and mental health support can do and he has barely any coping skills for life. I also have so little confidence in his compliance with social distancing. With the economic hit to the money his parents did great job saving for him he only has about 2 mo left to be in this place. What then:? 99% sure his mom's house and I will want my step daughter OUT of there.

Felt good to get all that out.

Thanks for asking Lines. It's a delicate disucussion to bring up with my husband and his wife gets defensive when i reach out.