Feel free to rant Blue, you are speaking for many of us here! To get a small clue of what my AH has had to deal with since childhood, I'll tell you what his mother said to him as he was lying in the hospital after he almost bled to death after his second suicide attempt. No kiss, hug, or "Thank God you are alive my child". No, none of that. Just a nasty look on her face and the following words hissed out "Shape Up!" Thank goodness she and Dad left after that or I would have physically thrown the "B" out of his room. Haven't seen nor talked to them since and THAT was my H's decision. One of the best ones he has ever made in my humble opinion.