Curmudgeon, Electrical Engineer, Guitar God Wannabe
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Where the mighty arms of Atlas hold the heavens from the Earth
Posts: 3,403
I'd be willing to wager you already know how you should proceed. The question you have to answer is: are you ready to pull that particular trigger.
Mind you, I'm not minimizing what pulling it means in terms of consequences, both short and long term. But how many years have you been dealing with this? Prescription opiates? Booze? And now your children are noticing their father is acting weird. Probabilistically speaking, it's unlikely he'll ever change. And keep in mind what he's doing -- indulging himself at the expense of everything else -- is not coterminous with the vows you took with him when you married.
Based on that, you have both license and justification to do what is necessary to protect yourself and to spare your children from further disruption.
When you're ready to go there, we'll see you through it. In the meantime, you're safe with us.
Welcome to the Board.