OLM, I was just wandering in the Newcomers forum, and I see you have a bunch of posts there, talking to an A whose wife has just told him she wants a separation. As the folks over there said, people are welcome to post in any forum they choose. This is certainly true.
BUT. The great big BUT.
You can keep on focusing on your AH, and on other A's here on the forum, OR you can get to work on your OWN issues. One of these paths will absolutely help you out and improve your life. The other, not so much.
Enough people have talked to you here that I believe you know which is which.