Thanks Zero, that was very informative. SMART sounds very effective, the ABC: encouraging positive self-talk and development of better beliefs, "I lapsed, not relapsed and I'm not consequently a loser, but a learner", discouraging negative self-talk, building motivation, with an end goal.
The more I deliberate my own path to addiction, I can see so clearly the fork where I took on a defeatist mindset (I'm an alcoholic, a failure, I'm different, weak and full of defects, can't help myself, need another power which eludes me, what's the point, might as well carry on drinking because I don't want to be excluded and attend meetings for life".
I really do like the concepts of SMART, wish I'd discovered it a decade or more ago, instead of following the mainstream meetings of the time. Coffee, oh yes, but thankfully, unlike alcohol. I can moderate my intake.