Thanks so much for the advice and replys.its kind of just ignored and accepted and glossed over in my life until a big blow out or drama happens then mum Will retreat in to her shell and everyone feels sorry for her including me. Ah u know what she's like etc😏 it's weird when it's ur parent because u feel u can't abandon them and have to be good to them. I'm of the mindset of Forgive and move on because you'll regret it some day when they aren't around but then again u can't just live in a cycle of **** and drama over and over. I'll check out the above links and stuff too, thanks guys x