Fighting with an active drunk is like baying at the moon dearest Ashley. My people shook me until my teeth rattled and I never heard a word of it when my entire world revolved around the next drink. I'm sorry. You have people to protect now and my suggestion to you is to not expose them to your family for now. And, for goodness sakes, you are 9 months pregnant. For the next few years, you just take care of those who need you the most. My people have really loved Alanon and they have been so helpful to my family and friends whose lives I did everything I could to make miserable.