please keep in mind:
At least 15 people pulled me aside to ask about him because he’s so jaundiced.
and your exAH is very well aware of the face that looks back at him in the mirror.
i only point this out because we so easily slip into "if i just say the right thing THIS time...." and believe it is our voice alone that must speak.
of course, you are free to say something. but that's as far as your influence goes. it is dreadful and tragic to see the ravages of addiction, especially when the solution is so simple. not easy, but totally attainable. we just can't MAKE anyone CHOSE the solution. which totally blows.