Just one thought about being an alcoholic. For me it all comes down to my ability to drink in moderation. I can't. So for me that's the bottom line. That being said, I don't think it's necessary for anyone to self identify, to others, with the word alcoholic either inside or outside of a meeting. The necessary part is knowing that controled drinking is not an option. As long as that is crystal clear in my mind the use of the word alcoholic is completely optional.
The word "alcoholic" does have many negative connotations. There is a wonderful film that explores many of the issues about the use of the word. It's called "The Anonymous People". It has changed a lot of my thinking. I'd highly recommend it.