Sortof - did you manage to quit yet? I didn't see you pop in on your Feb 1 start thread to tell us what's up.
The 4-5 inventories and then step 9 are something to work with a sponsor about - remind me if AA has been your program? Or are you just starting? If you are just getting sober (I hope this wk!) then a re-start would be my suggestion. In a very (very) short answer, my experience and education has been that yes, there are some things that happen to us that we do not have fault in. Again, with my one example of that, I still needed to discuss it and work thru it in my steps.