My 11-year-old son told me last week about hearing his father tell a friend about how hard he is working to control his drinking this time. I just nodded and said that I hoped he was able to do that.
A couple of months ago my son teared up when he asked if we might get back together and I said I didn't think so because I didn't think his father was ready to quit drinking. I told him I was sad too and wished that this wasn't happening. He sees what's going on though. He sees his father semi-regularly (more or less every other weekend and some, inconsistent, weekdays)and knows what his life is and what ours is compared to what we've been through the past year or so.