2020: I understand more than words... and honestly, there’s no shame or blame here! We’ve all been through so many similar experiences.

It’s a process and takes time! I went back to my ex GF 5x and I’m still having good/bad days.

Part of the healing comes when you forgive both yourself and your partner. Like others have mentioned, his drinking wasn’t about you.

I’m more a fan of individual therapy — but Al Anon was a life saver for me in the beginning. It’s a safe place with no judgements. I cried like a baby every single time I went...

I think shame turns into a much deeper pain, if you don’t release it, you know? Living with an alcoholic creates so many walls of secrecy, guilt, shame, embarrassment, etc... then we continue those behaviors/patterns so please try and release those feelings, ok? Inner growth doesn’t happen if we lock up our souls. Glad you have at least one friend you can confide in... and us!