Thanks for this. I just found this forum last weekend. My A (I have to look up abbreviations) has been gone a week. I read through the posts nightly and have found yours particularly helpful.

I am working on not making contact. He texted me last night and it was hard not to respond because I thought he would be sad and drink if I didn’t respond. Luckily, this forum had made me realize that I am a codependent...like,to the T! So, I stopped and asked myself if I really wanted to respond. The answer was NO. So with some guilt, I didn’t. It’s been about 24 hours!

Thank you!