Thanks for sharing that FWN, I really like that analogy.
(the only part I might add is that even when the rat is firmly locked in the cage, he has access to a key!).
I'm glad you went too, she sounds really good and I know it has to help to make you feel a little more at ease to have this support as well.
Yes, he will do what he is going to do. You have really done all you can and more, he will either seek recovery or he won't.
I do hope that you aren't thinking of this as a crap shoot situation though. You still get to carry on with your life, make plans, be "in" your days and weeks and months, while he makes his decisions. Yes, what he does may mean the difference to having a Husband to go back to or not, but you can cross that bridge when you come to it. You don't know how you will feel about it all months down the road.
The anxiety, stress, desire to check
Do you find this waning at all now?