You cannot make him stop any of that Doudou and you cannot fix him. Talking to his family, etc., will not affect any of his behavior in the slightest. Only he can change those things and that is only if he wants to. You should, today, write down the way that you want to live. Decide what is important to you and whether he can be a part of that world. Hopefully it will include your boyfriend but perhaps not. You'll be better off knowing even if it is not the result you want. I think the first thing you need to do is find a more stable place to live. If you and your boyfriend are hiding cash to the tune of $5,000 in a dresser drawer, you aren't acting like a mature couple who should be on their own together. Trouble waiting to happen. Your situation doesn't sound safe at all. Keep posting here and let us know how things are going. Unless a person in your boyfriend's situation seeks help, these things are typically progressive and get worse with time, not better.