I too filed for divorce twice. And there were so many times I thought our marriage wouldn’t survive. He had done and said so many horrible things that I didn’t think there was any coming back, but we did. His recovery is still early (only 7 months), but he has immersed himself so deep into his recovery that he is like a different person. He’s better than the guy he was when I married him. I can say our marriage is stronger than it’s ever been because there is so much more gratitude. We find every moment of our lives together with him sober to be an absolute blessing. It’s beautiful but it took a long time to get there. I think every relationship is going to be different but you just can’t compare someone who is actively drinking with someone who is in active recovery. They are truly like different people.