The closest I got to relapsing was when I had a brief relationship that ended last October. Although I'm a year out from using alcohol to cope with negative emotions and pain, once I experienced that breakup, it felt bad enough that the craving came back in full force. I luckily was able to work through it, but yes, they really do mean it when they say don't make any huge changes in your first year. You need to make sure your tools and sobriety are solid and that you've had time to use them before anything big happens.