I'm glad you're seeing a therapist Jeff.
I also come from a family where, in the extended family at least, things were settled by violence, and power established by the fear of violence.
I made a choice many years ago that was not to be the model for my conduct or my masculinity.
I hope you can find peace understanding and reconciliation Jeff and lay a few old demons to rest.
For the record tho, in the bold bit - he's not wrong but you're quoting Scott not me.
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