I'm glad to hear from you Jeff, and that you are taking action to deal with the anger.
I also have had to do lots of work on my own core issue of anger, and like you grew up in a "salty" family situation. I have found that dealing with those bottled up emotions and letting them go for good has been key to not only sobriety but peace in my life.
I'm still very much a work in progress--just now headed for my six month sober count after my last (and I mean last) relapse in June--but I finally feel like I can get past the Past and into the Present.
Then the Future will take care of itself. . .