Originally Posted by
Thlayli 
Yes! This is one thing I hate about shared custody is that he often seems so "normal" when he's picking up DS and it makes my heart hurt for what I thought we used to have. I have to remind myself that appearing normal for 10-15 minutes a week is probably pretty easy.
Yup.. EXAH can appear very normal right up til he hits one of my boundaries, then the drinking thinking comes to the forefront. I reckon handovers are a bit like tying shoe laces.. Mostly a subconscious task he'll be able to do.. Right up to the point when he no longer can.