I'm proud of you, FWN. Deciding whether to leave and the constant push/pull toward and away from the A make it so hard to make a decision. Trusting your gut and following through are painful, but I am so glad you have a good sized place, yard, and neighbors with kids, instead of an apartment where it's harder to find other kids to play with. I think your strength in addressing the issues with your AH is wonderful and in the long run, will bring you and your family peace.