No it doesn't.
What you did, not being the "alcohol police" is commendable. I have to say I probably would have said no, don't drink (as much as I know it's a useless request). Your boundaries are strong.
It's still difficult and still hurtful, regardless of how much it is time to move on and regardless of how justified you might be, I know.
It will take time to move through it and past it. Next year I hope your xmas is the best yet!