Perhaps on that 2 week holiday you might have noticed some things about him you hadn't really realized before?
Him needing a lot of alone time, even with you right there? Inability to discuss emotional matters at all, seeming to withdraw?
Yes, AA meetings take all of what, an hour? So that takes up his whole week? I don't think he was lying necessarily but he was certainly keeping emotional distance, again, he may just not be able to handle that kind of closeness, because of his "illness".
I brought up feeling like we werent in a proper relationship a few weeks ago and he took offence, said id hurt him by my comment.
Well I guess when he was doing all he could cope with, he thought that was ok, but I totally get what you mean, of course. How many years do you go on only seeing someone once a week?