Detachment for me meant
1. Stop monitoring the amounts he was drinking
2. Stop questioning why he was drinking
3. Stop feeling that l had to put this right
4. Stop over thinking about it.
5. Start thinking about my own health
6. Start making plans to enjoy my life
7. Pull myself up if l was tempted to discuss it
8. Be so busy with my own life that l dont fret about his.
And finally, remind myself constantly that the only person l can influence/control/change is ME.