Originally Posted by
Hodd 
I’d be very upset to hear anyone saying that to anyone. What gives people the right? I’d always try to encourage and support anyone trying to quit regardless of what stage they’re at.
"The right" is almost always based on experience, as the BB lays out. What it took for us to get sober, if you will. Everyone doesn't say things in the best tone or way sometimes, but this kind of tough love is perhaps best reconsidered - as frankness of where we may need to go.
I was half drunk at the liver dr when two things happened that made me quit:
"August, why are you killing yourself? Lovely woman, well-educated, you've done a lot of great things in your life. Why?"
That WHY - I had no answer.
He followed that up with "I don't even need to examine you and I can tell you that you've got a yr, 18 months if you keep going. And I'm not going to fool with you if you don't want to do everything you can to live."
I was DONE.
Why did it take the many prior warnings and ER visits and injuries and loss and pain and... I don't know other than I wasn't ready to give it up and surrender.