I despise AA for having destroyed my marriage and in all reality, my husband just went from one addiction to another ; now he spend a fortune on skydiving, spending all his free time getting the rush of adrenaline.
I lost my husband, my friend, my lover, to AA and will forever be very vocal about it.
Alcoholism/addiction is nothing to do with any group. If he went to the doctor for treatment or went to a counselor to stop drinking or using...and yet continued to drink or use...would we blame the doctor or the counselor.
AA has the map, a good plan for sober living. Anyone can choose to use it or scoff at the directions and toss it out on the way to a bar. It doesn't offer "the cure". It offers an alternative to drinking and a better way to live. The choice is with the person and nobody else.
For almost 100 years, AA has helped save lives. Others, not yet ready, have passed trying it their own way.
Just needed to add that here.