I understand your devastation.
I'm always hesitant when I read that someone has left a partner and gone straight on to another partner........I'm not sure it will last.
I have experience from both sides.
My now Alcoholic ex partner was such hard work.
We were only together 18 months.
It ended after he attacked me when drunk and a neighbour called the police.
At first I missed him, even though he beat me up with 2 wooden bats.
I wanted to make excuses for him and say the only reason he did it was drink.
He is not a bad man.
But actually with distance between us and no contact for 3 months, I have realised that my life is peaceful without him in wrecking drunken chaos and anger.
He constantly lied about drinking.
I would find empty bottles under my bed.
His mood was up, down, angry. Up, down, angry.
It was no way to live.
I too had supported him through 3 rehabs.
I even drove him there.
I visited at the weekend.
I looked after his dog.
Now I am not frightened to come home and wonder what mood or how drunk he will be.
Im not on tiptoes when he has drank constantly for 5 days and he thinks he is dying.
I realised I was not doing him any favours.
He needed to realise that no, I was not driving to see him, every weekend.
I had a life too and I worked full time.
I didn't want to drive for 4 hours when I had driven all week for my job.
No I was not available to have his dog for 11 weeks.
For me having time on my own and no contact has done me the world of good.
My eyes have been opened to a lot more that was wrong in the relationship.
Yes it was sad. At first we got on so well, but it was me enabling him.
I also remember the 2nd time he came out of rehab and he was horrible. He was a monster. I was shocked. He would say things like that's a passive aggressive comment, please may I have an apology?
You would think he was the of guru of recovery.
He started drinking about 3 days later.
I think rehab is like living in a protective bubble.
It's not real life.
This man may have been wonderful while she was at rehab, but in the real world there could be problems and issues.
Just lastly, as this post as gone on for hours and hours, for me I see it as an opportunity to meet someone I really want to be with......eventually.
You take care and keep venting here as this is what we are here for.
I wish you the best xx