Hi Bonniefloyd,
I am glad you posted. You have no idea how much you helped me in my early sobriety in the November 2018 class. Your words of encouragement will not be forgotten.
I am glad your husband is not drinking. My wife still drinks. She is having a glass of wine right at this moment as a matter of fact. I really wish she would quit drinking but she never will. It does not in anyway trigger me to want to drink, I just think it would be nice if we were both non drinkers. A few months ago my wife told me she was feeling very depressed. I told her she should quit drinking and see a therapist. She did neither. She bought a bottle of wine two days after we talked. She told me "don't worry I feel much better, I finished a project at work and this is to celebrate."
Then, about a month ago she was not feeling well in the morning after drinking. She told me she was going to not drink until her birthday, which was about two weeks away. She made it 3 days until she bought a bottle of wine.